I wanted to cancel. Quit. Throw in the towel. Give up.

But I didn’t. Instead I asked, how can this be easier, lighter and more graceful?

I have to let go of control. I have to stop trying to hold it all together and surrender to grace.

There was no coincidence that I committed to hosting an all-day event a week before my wedding. Both events provided the same mirror for me: it’s not about cancelling or quitting. It’s about practicing the art of feminine leadership.

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You are not alone

Last night, I went to bed restless, upset and depleted. What started as an incredible day ended with me caught up in mind chatter. I woke up at 3:30am completely pissed off and angry. I tossed and turned. I felt utterly alone and unsupported.

How could I feel this way with so many incredible people that I interact with on a daily basis? Circles of women who I connect deeply with multiple times a week? Sleeping next to this incredible man who does, and would do, anything for me? Who I know loves me unconditionally?

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Holding Space for Transformation

What is holding space?

Holding space is when someone creates an environment or atmosphere of connection through full acceptance and non-judgment.

This could be in a group dynamic or one on one.

It is a critical piece of co-creative leadership because in order for people to work together in collaboration, all ideas, thoughts and feelings must be welcome.

As a facilitator, I am always faced with the challenge of how to hold safe space for others to have a transformational experience. And by that I mean that they experience their power and know themselves as a leader of their own life. They have awareness of themselves in a way they didn’t before.

In today’s video, I talk about 3 components of holding space. This is just the tip of iceberg.

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Getting the Support you Need and Desire

“I feel like I’m not supported.”

How many times have you said this?

It is totally normal to feel like you are doing it all alone. Overwhelmed. Frustrated.

In today’s video, I talk about 3 areas of life you can create structure around to feel more supported. You will naturally start to attract people to support you in your life when you create structures for them to step into.

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United Humanity

Today marks a shift in the Tribal Truth dialogue. Today starts a conversation between women and men in creating tribe.

For the past 3 years, I have written to my sisters.

And over the course of this period, men have asked to be included. I was ambivalent. I said, “well, we won’t invite you but we won’t turn you away if you show up at the door.”

I felt like the protector creating safe space for women to be vulnerable with one another.

To be honest, I’m tired of being that structure. At Longdance in September, when the men held space for us women, I yearned for that type of support in Tribal Truth.

What if the men held the container and I could just simply show up and lead?

But something didn’t feel right about that either.

I had a little bit of victim/martyr energy around it that said, “I’m exhausted, come save me.”

It felt like old model. I’m tired of that conversation. I want real partnership.

As I prepare for Sunday’s Honoring The Masculine event, I have had numerous conversations about my relationship with the masculine.

I began to look honestly at some of my blocks and fears and how I’ve inherited a belief system that’s disempowering.

Here are a few disempowering conversations that I am giving voice to:

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