tanyapaluso

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2015 Year in Review

2015 – Regenesis This year felt like one big rite of passage into womanhood. As I sit here at the end of November, I take a deep breath and let it out. I am integrating and reflecting and taking time to let it all sink in. I am no longer Tanya Paluso. I am now...
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Priestess of the moon

For years I had wondered how I could design my life and business to be in alignment with my own personal cycle as well as the rhythms and cycles of the earth. It felt like a lot of work to “figure” it all out. So while I felt a calling, I didn’t answer it. Until...
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Our Wedding Ceremony

The Wedding: Brent & Tanya Oct 4, 2015 The Officiant: Dr. Sage Breslin The Gathering We are gathered here today in the presence of tribe and family to witness and support the marriage of Brent Mikel Kozlowski and Tanya Lynn Paluso.  We are so grateful for the presence of so many who join us here...
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magician

I wanted to cancel. Quit. Throw in the towel. Give up. But I didn’t. Instead I asked, how can this be easier, lighter and more graceful? I have to let go of control. I have to stop trying to hold it all together and surrender to grace. There was no coincidence that I committed to...
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Lessons from Mastery of Circle Leadership

Last week, I hosted the Mastery of Circle Leadership retreat … one of the most powerful weeks of my life. The training was a success and I got so many lessons that I want to share the top 5 in a minute. It was my first time away from Kali, pumping in between sessions, learning...
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overcoming fear of putting something out there

A week ago, I got a call from my friend, Peter, asking for information on how I did my book launch last year. He was super inspired by what I had put together with women reading passages from the book as well as musicians rocking the house. Over 70 people in our community rallied at...
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It’s never about the money

I just got back from a much needed vacation where I completely unplugged from everything. I started at Honeyroot to immerse myself in the hive of queen bees, surrendering, letting go, and receiving. I then picked up my man in Reno and went to camp at Lake Tahoe with some friends. We ended in Paso...
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my Ted talk: how to empower the next generation of girls

One of my intentions for 2015 is to speak on a Tedx stage. If you haven’t heard of Ted, it is one of the premier stages for change agents to present their big ideas to the world. Today, I shot a 2 minute “informal” video to apply to speak at a local Tedx event and...
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Let go of control

Have you ever felt like the floodgates have opened and you are afraid of drowning? That’s exactly where I’ve been the past couple weeks. When it rains, it pours. Between nursing my baby and adjusting to motherhood, planning a wedding, starting a business partnership with my fiance, Brent, where he has taken on the CTO...
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The First 40 Days After Birth

When I was pregnant, I felt like I was going through a tunnel. I knew there was some new world on the other side, and I could see a little bit of the light, but it was incomprehensible at that time. I was excited, scared, apprehensive, giddy and sad all at once. Sad because my...
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So You Want to See the Baby? 7 guidelines for supporting a new mama’s birth

I remember being so excited every time my friend had a baby. I couldn’t wait to go over for that first meeting, but also had so much apprehension come up of not wanting to be a burden. I would get a little hurt if my friend didn’t invite me over right away. Now that I’ve...
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Birth Story

I thought I was ready. For weeks, I visualized her coming through the birth canal. I saw myself powerfully “breathing her out.” I had done the work: 10 days of silent meditation during my 35th week of pregnancy. Chiropractic care every week for 4 months. Swimming days before I went into labor. I was healthy....
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Top 10 Things I’m Experiencing at 32 Weeks Pregnant

32 weeks‬ pregnant today … Two months until my little girl arrives! Here are the top 10 things I’m experiencing in the home stretch: 1) I love Tums. 2) I’m thirsty as hell. Apparently this is due to the massive blood expansion happening as she is in a huge growth spurt so it feels like...
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Year in Review (Part 2)

I received a ton of positive feedback about last week’s Year in Review and I decided that I needed to continue to share my process of completion of 2014 and the creation of 2015, making this a series. After doing the Year in Review where I went month by month through the year to tease...
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2014 Year in Review: My Year of Death and Rebirth

I started 2014 for a week in bed, sick, going through an intense healing process. I had co-created a New Year’s Eve party and ironically stayed home while the rest of my community enjoyed what I co-created. A lesson of letting go, taking care of myself, and trusting the leadership in others. Now as I...
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Secrets of the baby whisperer

I love when I find books at exactly the right time with exactly the right message. Secrets of the Baby Whisperer by Tracy Hogg is one of the those books. What’s been freaking me out lately is the idea of nursing. And to be specific, that I won’t be able to. I’ve heard that most...
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entering third trimester

As I move into the third trimester, I feel myself cocooning. You have to let go of, my body tells me. You have to say no even though it may hurt people. You have to honor yourself and what feels good above all else. You have to stop and rest. And most of all, you...
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anemic

So glad to find out today at my midwife appointment that I am anemic … So I now know how to take care of myself and why I had a headache and was so exhausted. Thanks Laura Swan for the tip on eating buffalo....
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listening

Less than a minute after I hit POST on Facebook this morning about being exhausted, my phone rang. It was Jyoti Conradi and the first thing out of her mouth was about me listening to my body if I get tired (with no prior knowledge of my post). Then she said something that hit me...
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postponing the wedding planning

Another layer: I’ve let go of planning my wedding right now. When Jodi asked me about it yesterday, I got really agitated and then started crying. I realized that I have been caught up in “I have to set the date and get the venue now so I don’t lose out on what I want”...
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my last 100 days

MY LAST 100 DAYS This past week I found much needed balance between working and self-care. When I allowed myself to be still and quiet, I felt a tidal wave of grief overcome me. A river of tears surging out of me. Because in that silence I found myself facing my own death as who...
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lesson from the Sistership Circle Festival

Tonight was so off the charts that I can’t sleep! I’m going through the photos and am in love with each and every person who showed up for one of the most powerful events I’ve hosted in my career. The irony … At about 2pm, I had a string of messages coming in from people...
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sugar addiction

I have an addiction to sugar. Yep, and it has had me by a stranglehold the past couple weeks. The launch has had me on hyper-focus mode and my go-to stimulant has been sweets. Last night at Sistership Circle, we tuned into our bodies and identified what imay be in pain. My middle back. Louise...
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acknowledgement

There is nothing quite like doing the launch for http://sistershipcircle.com when you are pregnant. I have been tested in terms of creating balance and not stressing myself out, and I have become very mindfully aware of who I am BEING as the feminine space holder vs. DOING the work to “pull it off.” For the...
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manifesting community everywhere

When you are a stand for community, it shows up everywhere. I went out to put an envelop in my mailbox this afternoon, and in front of my driveway was my neighbor with her two little girls and my other neighbor, an elderly man. I am greeted with friendly smiles and an invitation to a...
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hOMe

I’m hOMe. For the first time since I left my parents house at 18, I have my own place. I’ve lived all over the world, but never felt home and never created my own space that felt like mine. Until now. Pretty unbelievable but true. I never valued it; instead I valued adventure and a...
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My first and only sonogram

We decided that I would only do one “test” — no bloodwork to check for abnormalities only an anatomy sonogram at 20 weeks to make sure the baby was healthy and to find out the gender....
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You are not alone

Last night, I went to bed restless, upset and depleted. What started as an incredible day ended with me caught up in mind chatter. I woke up at 3:30am completely pissed off and angry. I tossed and turned. I felt utterly alone and unsupported. How could I feel this way with so many incredible people...
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Week 20 – registries

20 weeks! Half way there! My little belly is growing so fast everyday! Registry question for mamas: what are the MUST haves for my baby registry and what are the DON’T BOTHER items that you thought you’d need but were a waste? Have no idea where to start so need your wisdom!...
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I’m now officially …

Lots of changes with Little Be coming into the world. Next year, I will formally and legally become Tanya Lynn Kozlowski when I take Brent’s hand in marriage. The idea of no longer being “Tanya Paluso” scared me, as it is who I always knew myself to be. We become so attached to our names...
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Surrender … again and again

I’ve been experiencing overwhelm lately, like the clock is ticking, and that I’m going to get it wrong when the timer goes off. I notice the desire to be perfect coming up. I notice the need to make it work boiling in my blood. I notice the fear that I’m not going to be able...
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Week 18

18 weeks and baby bump is definitely showing!...
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He’s all in

Yesterday, Brent went all in committing himself to supporting the Sistership Circle launch on the backend, designing and managing the website and putting structures in place for the vision. After my initial contraction of fear, today I settle into my YES to receiving his support. There is something so powerful about the masculine standing for...
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The Heartbeat

Thanks to my beautiful sister Laura Swan, I got to listen to Little Be’s heart beat for the first time this afternoon. I cried with her (she had no idea we hadn’t been to the doc yet). Then I took it home to Brent Kozlowski who loved the surprise. This little miracle of life is...
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I said YES

As the sun was rising over the temple on Wednesday morning, Brent got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I had been expecting this day to come soon, but was not expecting so many tears. No words could express the joy pulsing through me, except one: YES....
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Gratitude, Love and Acknowledgement for my Man

Big dose of GRATITUDE, LOVE and ACKNOWLEDGEMENT: Yesterday, I had a crazy hormonal lunatic moment (or more like an extended period of crazytown) where I just couldn’t see anything clearly. I told Brent I didn’t know if our relationship was going to work. I felt trapped. I was raging. Then sobbing. A messy puddle of...
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Another big reveal …

I haven’t watched it yet (too scared to see myself on stage!), but I’m revealing it to you anyway: My Rational Lies theater performance piece....
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Crazytown

Big dose of GRATITUDE, LOVE and ACKNOWLEDGEMENT: Yesterday, I had a crazy hormonal lunatic moment (or more like an extended period of crazytown) where I just couldn’t see anything clearly. I told Brent I didn’t know if our relationship was going to work. I felt trapped. I was raging. Then sobbing. A messy puddle of...
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Progesterone

Yesterday was one of my toughest pregnancy days. I woke up crying … for no reason. I had a great mid-morning but then was hit hard by fatigue in the late afternoon. I couldn’t shift it. I went to bed crying … for no reason. Like heaving sobs where I felt like I was two...
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To combine money or stay separate in partnership?

One of the biggest obstacles for couples is MONEY. So today, Brent and I went to my financial planner to get ourselves on the same page with our finances. A joint account, our goals, our budget with the baby coming, etc etc. And I feel sooooo empowered with the accountability, support and guidance! It feels...
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My personal growth in business

In 2010, when I started Tribal Truth, I was too scared and insecure to lead a long-term program so I started my “career” in the role as a MC for events, filling other leaders’ programs who I felt were more capable than me at leading deeper, transformational processes. I wanted to be that leader but...
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Will it really be that bad?

It’s 3:17am and all of a sudden, a baby is crying in the other room. WTF? “What is that? Brent, what is going on?” “It’s a crying baby. It’s your turn.” “What?!” Shocked, dazed, confused, I stumble out of bed. Brent’s phone alarm is going off … The sound … A baby’s cry. What is...
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Behind the scenes from the pregnancy announcement

Truth telling is one of my top values and so I am very clear that I need to be as transparent as possible during this pregnancy. It’s what had me make an announcement during the first month instead of waiting until the end of the first trimester. We all know that pregnancies can be rough....
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I Choose a Home Birth

We just finished watching The Business of Being Born. I watched it about 3 years ago when I decided that if I got pregnant I would do a homebirth. As I watched it again with Brent, I sobbed during every part where the women were giving birth. This pregnancy has me in awe of myself,...
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The Unexpected Conscious Conception

I woke up with a jolt. Today is the day. “I’m going to take a pregnancy test.” Brent was wide awake. “Well, shit just got real real.” A few hours later, within 10 seconds of peeing on the stick, a line appeared, unmistakeably pointing to the fact that I was very pregnant. I burst into...
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Honoring the Masculine

In the 3 years of putting on events, I have never been so nervous and excited as I was last night. 57 men showed up to be honored. Over 30 women showed up to hold space. What happened was magical. Our intention of inspiring and empowering the men in our community was fulfilled. In today’s...
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Holding Space for Transformation

What is holding space? Holding space is when someone creates an environment or atmosphere of connection through full acceptance and non-judgment. This could be in a group dynamic or one on one. It is a critical piece of co-creative leadership because in order for people to work together in collaboration, all ideas, thoughts and feelings...
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Getting the Support you Need and Desire

“I feel like I’m not supported.” How many times have you said this? It is totally normal to feel like you are doing it all alone. Overwhelmed. Frustrated. In today’s video, I talk about 3 areas of life you can create structure around to feel more supported. You will naturally start to attract people to...
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United Humanity

Today marks a shift in the Tribal Truth dialogue. Today starts a conversation between women and men in creating tribe. For the past 3 years, I have written to my sisters. And over the course of this period, men have asked to be included. I was ambivalent. I said, “well, we won’t invite you but...
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Speaking Up About Sex

For the past 2-3 years, I have been exploring my sexuality and sensuality as a woman. This is probably the most difficult subject for me to go public with and I’m freaking out a little about posting this video because of the raw vulnerability. I’m afraid of where this may go and how it may...
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